Hygge: the Danish Way to Happiness and Living
Every year, Denmark experiences around eight months when the sun is rarely seen, with grim rain often accompanying the darkness. Yet, for many years, Danes were considered some of the happiest people in the world. I believe there are several lessons we can all learn from them, especially during challenging times like the lockdown, but not only then. Having lived in Copenhagen for two years, I’ve experienced this way of life myself, and these reflections serve as a perfect reminder of the Danish approach to living, enjoying life, and finding happiness.
Since natural beauty and sunshine are so scarce, Danes have mastered the art of finding joy in the little things. They’ve created a world of coziness, simplicity, authenticity, and pure enjoyment. As someone who loves nature, I was struck by the happiness I saw on people’s faces every year when the first rays of spring sunshine appeared. Even though it was still freezing in May, people gathered in parks, barbecuing and celebrating the return of daylight after months of winter darkness. It was truly an amazing sight!
How do they do it? They master the art of hygge – a culture of well-being, and simplicity.
What is Hygge?
“Hygge” originally comes from a Norwegian term meaning a feeling of “well-being” (Norway was part of Denmark for a long time before they split). The Danish word “hygge” is used to describe a moment or feeling that is cozy, warm, and simply good. It could be a moment you enjoy alone or with friends, at home or outside, whether it’s ordinary or extraordinary.
For those unfamiliar with the concept, imagine being at home during Christmas. You’re sitting on a comfy sofa, surrounded by pillows, with candles lit around you. It’s snowing outside, and you’re free to do whatever makes you happy—hug your partner, play with your pet, listen to your favorite music, or read a book. Everywhere around you is calm and quiet. Your soul is at peace. This perfect harmony, where everything feels just right—that’s hygge.
How to Embrace a Hygge Lifestyle
Danes created hygge as a way to survive the cold, dull, and dark days of winter. Simple acts like lighting a candle while enjoying your morning coffee or having a home-cooked meal with loved ones can lift your spirits.
While hygge isn’t about material things you can buy, like a “hygge living room” or “hygge drinks,” there are ways to create a hygge lifestyle. This isn’t limited to Denmark—it’s a way of life that we can all adopt. Small changes can create a hygge environment and mindset, helping us reach a deeper sense of happiness.
The Hygge Decalogue
To simplify, let’s explore what makes hygge such a warm, beautiful culture and how it’s easy to adopt some Danish habits for a happier life.
Atmosphere
Lower the light intensity at home or work to create a cozier, more intimate atmosphere. Many restaurants and cafés do this in the evenings for a more comfortable experience. At home, I rarely use bright lights, opting instead for table or floor lamps that create a warm, inviting atmosphere.
Being Present
When with friends or at home, turn off your phone and focus on the present moment. Leave social media behind and pay attention to the real world around you. If nothing is happening, enjoy the silence or engage in something that brings you joy.
Remember the feeling when, after staying indoors during lockdown, you opened a window and heard the birds sing? Or when you went outside and noticed how green everything was, how flowers had bloomed? That’s being present.
Relax
Take pleasure in the smallest things—enjoy a cup of coffee or tea, eat some chocolate, light some candles, or talk with a friend about something nice. It’s not about taking a vacation; it’s about making time for small moments of relaxation in your daily life.
Danes are also good at taking time off. Make sure to give yourself breaks—our brains need to recharge. Even if you don’t travel far, there are still plenty of things to enjoy during downtime.
Equality
If you live with a partner or family, focus on “us” instead of “me.” Share chores, cook dinner together, and make it fun. Then, relax with a glass of wine, watch TV, or play a board game—enjoying the time equally.
When I lived in Denmark, I noticed that people rarely bragged about their achievements. High test scores or personal successes weren’t reasons to celebrate. This sense of equality, where no one is better than anyone else, is reflected in the Jante Law, deeply rooted in Nordic cultures.
Gratitude
Be grateful for what you have. Appreciate the little things in life—the free ones, the experiences. These are the things that truly matter, and happiness comes from recognizing their value.
Harmony
A key aspect of Danish culture is the idea of no competition – yes, very different than the Romanian, Indian or American culture. In the Nordics, no one is better than anyone else, and people don’t brag about their accomplishments. Danish people believe that humility is the foundation of harmony between individuals.
Comfort
Comfort is essential to hygge. It’s about feeling comfortable in your surroundings, with the food you eat, and the people you spend time with. While trying something new is great, it’s okay to stay in your comfort zone sometimes, too.
Take a Break
This isn’t just about taking breaks from work or study—it’s also about stepping away from drama and focusing on what matters. Authenticity, simplicity, and long-term plans are key to hygge. Taking care of your body and mind is essential for happiness.
Friends
Friends are like a balm for the soul. They help you live in the moment, build memories, and contribute to your happiness. Good friends and meaningful conversations make life more beautiful.
Home
Your house is your sanctuary, a place where you feel safe, secure, and comfortable. Once you feel this way about where you live, your house becomes your home. For Danes, a home is cozy and intimate, filled with candles and unique decorations. It’s a place where the soul feels at ease.
To wrap up, hygge is about being present and appreciating the moment. It’s a Danish recipe for happiness, and we can all learn from it—whether it’s through the atmosphere in our homes, our relationships, or our mindset.
If you’re curious to learn more, I highly recommend the cozy little book “The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living.”
Enjoy!
